Feminist Wishlist

I am forever pinning. I am a pinning junkie. I actually can’t stop.

Pinterest, as you’ll probably know, is so good for storing ideas to come back to at a later date. If I’m in need of some outfit inspiration, I’ll flick through my fashion board and see what gems I’ve pinned. I’m planning my life’s holidays on ‘travel’ boards too. Basically, Pinterest is life.

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Five films for different moods

Films? Films?!?! I know, I know – we all love to haul ourselves into our duvets and binge watch series after series on our laptops through Netflix these days. It means we don’t have to leave the confines of our warm, cosy, perfectly moulded nest; it means that we don’t have to get up and change any pesky discs in the DVD player. Zero movement required. Perfecto.
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11 Of The Best Books For Summer

11 Of The Best Books For Summer

{Note from Rhi; this is such an apt list as I’m probably sunning myself on the beach in Croatia as you read this -don’t be jel. Thanks to Liz Furl for writing this gorgeous and inspiring post!}

As winter fades into spring and with it brings the hope of summer, there comes a time to change up your reading material. You need books befitting the season, books that can be picked up for every spring shower, every unseasonably warm day, every beautiful Sunday afternoon, and every day you feel like taking a light-hearted jaunt into your childhood.

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9 Things I’ve Learned About Long Distance Relationships

What I’ve Learned About Long Distance Relationships 

So, the gorgeous Rhiân has asked me to guest post here on her blog while’she’s off gallivanting (and as I sit here on an overcast, typically British day, let me tell you I’m ALL the jealous).

Allow me to introduce myself.; I’m Joanna and I blog over at Teacups & Trainers.  I’m a big fan of tea. And running. And goats. But mainly goats. I also start a lot of sentences with ‘so…’

So, when Rhian asked me to write a guest I was all like ‘Yeah, I’m all over that!’. Then I was like ‘Sheeiiiit what can I write about that will do her blog justice?’. So I thought I would write about what I know best; and what I know best and what my life is all-consumed by right now is long distance relationships. Specifically mine.

long distance relationship

Now, I’ve been in a long distance relationship for all of about 3 months and when I say long distance I mean 200 miles (Me Midlands, him SW England). I know there are couples who battle far greater distances and for years at a time, and to you I take my hat off a hundred times over. But this is what I’ve learned on my journey so far.

1. It sucks. There’s no getting away from the fact that it is completely and utterly shit. When I knew that I was embarking on a long-distance relationship, my head filled with romantic notions of two tortured souls wistfully longing for each other, and romantic reunions at train stations. The truth is, it;’s mainly torturous. And train stations aren’t very romantic. I reckon airports would be better actually. Like off of Love Actually.

2. Romantic love-letter writing has happened. Which is pretty neat. And they have become my most treasured possessions. After y’know, my child.

3. It’s expensive. I don’t drive, which has increased the expense factor and lined the train company’s pockets somewhat, but that aside, petrol costs have massively increased (obvs) and who knew stamps were so expensive?!

4. Plus, I think you can fall into the trap of feeling that you have to do super exciting stuff every time you do see each other. Whilst it’s great to want to make the most of your time together and means you don’t take those precious days for granted, don’t fall into the trap of thinking that you have to spend big money to make it special. After being apart, just being in the same room is special enough.

5. It makes you have the big conversations way earlier than usual. For two reasons, I think. First, because you both have to be committed to it to make it work. And you probs won’t know that for certain unless you talk about it. Although we both knew early on that we were right for each other, I think the situation forced us to voice it earlier than we normally would. Which isn’t necessarily a bad thing.

Also, for me certainly, I couldn’t have embarked on a long-distance thing if I knew it was going to last indefinitely/forever. I had to be clear that there would come a time, in the not-too-distant future that we would be living closer together. Thus comes the potentially horrid conversation about which one of you is going to uproot their lives to move closer – when all you should really be thinking about at that stage is whether or not it’s too early to let him see you without makeup on. (I thought it was – he thought not. He didn’t run away in horror, so all good).

6.  It makes you want to kiss the person who invented Skype. SERIOUS relationship saver. Do not underestimate the difference it makes to see their face. And other body parts you might be missing. Soz, but he’s got AMAZE thighs.

7.  It doesn’t necessarily provoke trust issues. I reckon that if there are going to be trust issues in a relationship, they will be there regardless of whether you see each other once a day or once a month.

8. It means you don’t question the other person’s commitment to you. If somebody is going to drive for 3.5 hours across the country after a long day at work, just to drive back again the next day, you know they want to be with you. And properly be with you. It’s a hella lot of effort for a shag.

9. The we’re-finally-reunited-I’ve-missed-you-so-much hug can’t be beaten. You’ll live for that moment.

Currently, I am; a list

Hey everyone!

I know, it’s been a while, huh? I’ve had a really busy time as of late! There was a period of about 6 weeks where I was busy every weekend, my mam came up to stay for almost a week, and I’ve been busy looking for new jobs. It’s all been a bit of a whirlwind, and I’m feeling quite overwhelmed.

That said, writing here makes me feel calmer. I’ve been too busy doing the ‘non-negotiable’ things, but tonight I’ve sacked them off. To hell with responsible adulthood (for one night at least…).

Anyway, I’ve got a few posts lined up, but this one condenses my ‘now’ into a few sentences. It’s really helped me to try and figure out just where my head is right now, amongst all the busyness. I think this will become a regular posting.

Currently, I am:

Reading: ‘We are all completely beside ourselves’, by Karen Joy Fowler. As I’m writing, I’ve just finished it and have moved onto Irvine Welsh’s ‘Ecstasy’.

Watching: Californication

Trying: To be gym-committed

Cooking: Curried cous cous

Eating:Far too much chocolate for one person

Drinking: Too much tea (possible?)

Calling: My nan, to thank her for sending  homemade Welsh cakes and fruit loaf up with my mamma!

Texting: Old colleagues

Pinning: Pictures of David Duchovny. No, really – https://uk.pinterest.com/rhianaddien/duchovny/

Tweeting: Bloggers, to #ShareTheLove

Crafting: Decoupage letters

Doing: Relaxing, and planning the weekend!

Going: To Brimham Rocks, hopefully at some point this weekend

Loving: That me and Chris actually have a weekend *freeeeeeee*

Hating: Being too busy to do the little things

Appreciating: Lovely emails

Discovering: New inspiration in newly found bloggers

Enjoying: Writing more and more

Thinking: About the amount I have to do in such little time

Feeling: Excited // Anticipatory // Tired

Hoping: For my dream job to land in my lap?

Listening: Arabella – Arctic Monkeys

Smelling: Spring flowers

Celebrating: Being asked to write external of this blog, and being invited to my first blogger event!

Writing: Fiction

Thanking: The warmer and brighter weather

Considering: A new haircut

Missing: My mam (always) but also YOGA

Finishing: Soon, my job

Starting: Soon, afresh in Newcastle.

What have you been up to? Would you try writing your own list?

R xo